Daring to Dare: Forum’s journey from Borivali to Belgium

It was a typically warm and humid day in Mumbai and I remember my dad returning home from his daily morning workout. That morning in particular, I had been day-dreaming of all the places in the world where I could be – ordering a warm cup of coffee in the world’s first ever Starbucks, being rowed in a Gondola in Venice’s canals, walking up the walled city of Dubrovnik… and smelling the Sakura blossoms of Japan. I was teleporting myself virtually all over the world, and quite effortlessly at that! Most of these places had become etched in my brain either through the lens of the then famous travel-influencer Deepti Bhatnagar on her TV show “Musafir” or within the colorful pages of the weekly Gujarati magazine, ‘Chitralekha’ that used to arrive at our home.

Tired and exhausted from the workout, my dad sensed this zeal in my dreamy eyes and asked abruptly “Now what? What’s the next thing that you want?” Back then, I had only just begun my studies in architecture and drifting away from a sea of assignments and design projects into imaginative far-off places was my favourite escape from reality. Coming back into my senses, I answered “Daddy, I want to travel and I want to go to Europe.” Coming from a middle income family and saving every penny to educate us and provide us with the luxuries of life, my dad was visibly startled from my firm response. He asked me back “Paisa kya thi aavse?” (Gujarati for “Where will we get the money from?”) Sensing from his look of dismay and not wanting to add to his burdens, I replied “I don’t have all the answers right now. But you don’t need to worry. In five years, I’ll find a way and pursue a Master’s degree in Europe. 

At that time it seemed to me that pursuing a Master’s might be the sole gateway to fulfilling my dream of traveling abroad. What my excited young self didn’t foresee however was that an endless stream of visits to banks, hard fought negotiations with NBFCs, reaching out to private sponsors and seeking help from well-off relatives would soon become a routine part of this arduous journey. But then, a girl can dare to dream, so why shouldn’t I?

3 architecture students discussing drawings on site
On my very first architectural trip to Chiplun.

Of curiosity and aspirations

Throughout my academic years in architecture school, I eagerly awaited the school trips that would take me to different parts of the country – be it the meticulously crafted step wells of Adalaj, or the traditionally constructed houses in Shillong; each of the travels only fuelled my curiosity for understanding diverse cultures and traditions. And all this implied was that I had to TRAVEL MORE. 

I gradually mustered the courage to discuss my aspirations with my father, despite the challenging state of his business. He confessed one day, “I don’t have the means to support your education at the moment.” Deep in my heart, I had braced myself for the probability of this situation. With my mother’s constant encouragement to cling onto, I began my search for universities, eventually securing a seat in an acclaimed Belgian institute. “Yay!” I exclaimed. 

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Girl in red raincoat about to ride her bike
First purchase after landing in Belgium - my second-hand bike..

Daring to dare

The battle was far from won though as the bigger hurdle of obtaining an education loan was still looming. Loans from banks proved tough, as the paperwork it demanded was immense. After multiple rejections, I received a miraculous lifeline from an organisation collaborating with a national bank. In the days that followed, I couldn’t help but reflect on the incredible sacrifice my family had made to send me abroad for studies. 

The day I boarded that plane to Belgium, I realised that I was not merely carrying my own dreams and aspirations, but also the hopes and unfulfilled dreams of my parents and even their parents. This realisation infused me with mental toughness, reminiscent of Maya Angelou’s wise words “I believe that the most important single thing beyond discipline and creativity is daring to dare.

I took the moment to pat my 18 year old-self who had dared to take that first step of dreaming BIG. Every wave starts with a ripple, ain’t it?

Hi ! We’re Forum and Shiva, two intrepid souls united by our shared love for TRAVEL and SUSTAINABILITY. We met as architectural colleagues and we both spent some years exploring sustainable and socially responsible architecture. Our mutual fascination for vernacular architecture, traditional communities, and the curiosity to witness the natural world.. all led us to build this little nest: Barriers and Borders. 

Our mission is simple – to bring you meaningful stories from the small or the big journeys that we make which could allow you to see the world differently. To let you join our journeys through our words.. to touch upon those little details that maybe get missed.. and above all to attempt to give back to the places we are privileged to visit in this lifetime.

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Hi ! We’re Forum and Shiva, two intrepid souls united by our shared love for TRAVEL and SUSTAINABILITY. We met as architectural colleagues and we both spent some years exploring sustainable and socially responsible architecture. Our mutual fascination for vernacular architecture, traditional communities, and the curiosity to witness the natural world.. all led us to build this little nest: Barriers and Borders. 

Our mission is simple – to bring you meaningful stories from the small or the big journeys that we make which could allow you to see the world differently. To let you join our journeys through our words.. to touch upon those little details that maybe get missed.. and above all to attempt to give back to the places we are privileged to visit in this lifetime.

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